Happy Heart Day !!!!!!

Feb 14th seems to be a day that has come to be filled with dread (mostly it seems by men), anticipation and expectations (mostly woman), and a sense of being excluded (mostly single women).

Valentine’s Day although has been construed as a creation of the marketing media of ages past is really a oppurtunity that we all seem to by forgetting.

It is not a day to dread, or have unearthly expectations nor is it a day to feel forgotten and excluded if you are not partnered up.

What it can be, maybe should be, is a day to remind us that if we have been forgetful throughout the year to express love and caring Feb. 14th serves as a reminder that we as a society have a day in which we can make up for some of the forgetfulness that we may have committed throughout the year.

Men complain that Valentine’s Day takes away the opportunity for them to be spontaneous.  Hmnn really? What I say to all of those men out there is, “how many opportunities have you taken throughout the year to express love and affection in a romantic, galant way?”

Yeah, I thought so. So, instead of complaining about Feb. 14th, why not say, “Gee aren’t I lucky that I get a social reminder to express my love!”

I have taken quite a few seminars on how women should understand how men feel about Val’s Day and we should lower our expectations.  Hmnn , what I say to that is, men why don’t you get it that if a woman has to remind you that her birthday, anniversary or another special date is coming up..you don’t get as many points and we don’t appreciate it as much if we had to remind you.

But the creator goddess is so wonderful that she created a holiday, albeit with enough commercialism that unless you lived in a cave somewhere you would not forget it was Val’s  Day.

How wonderful, a special day in which to show you care without the women having to remind you.

You see the funny thing about Val’s Day is that we should not save our displays of love and affection for just one day.  Whether you are in a relationship or not Val’s Day should be every day of your life.

The one consistent message which the great sages and avatars have always brought to humanity is to love one another.

Love should be expressed every day in many ways to all those we come into daily contact with.

Not only should we be expressing love to those around us, we should be expressing love for our very self.

So rather than hating on Valentine’s Day due to its commercialism and seemingly forced affections take it to be a reminder that the greatest message given to humanity has been “to love one another as yourself”.

So, go out and buy yourself one of those chocolate hearts and a happy heart day!!! 

girlie girl……

 ”I love being a girlie girl, but I spend so much time having to be a man, that I sometimes forget to be a girlie girl around you, so please be my hero man so I can be a girlie girl for you……”

The conundrum of the modern woman is that in order to be a success in the career world we have to become men.  We become independent, we do things for ourselves and we develop a tough shell.  But who wants to caress a tough shell.  Men have a need for the softness of the feminine.  That is not to say that all that is feminine is pink and girlie.  For me it is.  It is when I am dressed up-made-up-perfumed up–looking like a doll- that I am the most in touch with my feminine side-my soft side.

Every woman has her own version of what defines feminine.  It does not matter what it looks like on the outside because that is a varied as there are women on the planet.

But what it looks like on the inside is pretty much the same.

It is when we are at our most vulnerable. It is when we have the potential t o feel like we are in the most danger–that we are not safe. 

And what makes most any woman feel that way is when we relinquish control and trust that our other will keep us safe, that our partner-date-husband-boyfriend- will protect us from the deadly tiger at the door.

Now don’t get me wrong I am perfectly capable of dealing with the tiger at the door, but when I am in that mode I am most definitely not in my feminine mode.  I am not relaxing–my mind is going full speed ahead, because I am not going to wait untill the tiger is at the door to have my plan.  My plan will be in action.  And that may look like the laundry has to be done first—my work needs to get done–the bills need to get–I have to fix dinner–because you see these are my modern-day tigers.

And when I am in fighting tiger mode–It is not pretty.  It is do not get in my way and do not become an obstacle because if you are not fixing the problem then you are the problem and I don’t care if I am fat-haven’t taken a shower-and don’t even think about sex—-thank you very much.

Tiger mode means that I can’t trust anyone or have any one else to take care of me.

But that isn’t really who I am. 

Inside I am that little girl who loves to wear pink-fancy jewlery-smell yummy and enticing and wants to have a knight in shining armor to battle some of the dragons and tigers at the door.

I want to feel safe.  I want to know that you can slay the dragons and tigers in the event I just don’t want to or I am too tired.

Every now and then all I want to think about is how pretty I can be for you and how much I just want to adore you.

So please be my hero-man so I can just be a girlie girl every now and then.