Scandal in Malaysia……Part Nine, The Phoenix

So how did this trip in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia end?

Well, Jay never did get the money from Amir to pay the artists.  He did however, start to get the refunds from the cancelled flights and although, Amir asked for this money back Jay used it to make partial payments to the artists.  He did send me $500.00 for the hotel that I paid but I had spent about another $1,500.00 in food and expenses for the three of us ( Jay, Lisa Haze and Myself).

It had gotten so insane that another magician with connections in politics offered to give us a security escort back to the airport.  Given that at the time we did not know who to trust I told Jay that we should take a pass.

Before we left the hotel I told Jay that he needed to do some soul-searching.  He asked me, “About us?” I told him, “No, I was thinking more in terms of your music career but actually you should probably do both.” And left it at that.

His flight takes off before mine and I left him as his flight started to board.  I cried all the way to my gate.  I guess people crying in airports is not such a strange sight because it seemed as if nobody was really paying attention to me.

Jay left for Australia and I left for the United States.

About three days after we got back Jay started his smear campaign against Amir and Mahdi on Facebook.  A smear campaign is the method a narcissist uses to turn the focus of attention away from his own bad behaviors and turn the focus on the opponent.  By discrediting Mahdi Jay made himself to look innocent.  This went on for about two months on Facebook with accusations being thrown back and forth.  Just about every magician on Facebook all over the world got involved in the discourse.  And anyone who disagreed with Jay’s version of the story got his comments deleted or got unfriended by Jay.

I was not in agreement with how Jay was handling the situation but he refused to talk to me. I leave him at the airport crying and three days later the man won’t even call me to talk to me–discarded like a used up worthless toy. I was told vis fb messaging, “Don’t presume to question my actions or attack strategy.”

I will not go into the sordid details of what transpired.  I will save that for the book version.  Suffice to say accusations went back and forth between Mahdi and Jay, each accusing the other of stealing money, lying and cheating. And both of them to varying degrees were guilty. But one does not criticize or disagree with someone who had NPD.  After Jay no longer needed me as an ally, when he felt that his 30 year  reputation in magic was free from tarnish he broke both the working relationship and the personal relationship off with me.

His words were, “2 that look to me now as their father. And would be utterly heartbroken if I left.”  He did not say he loved his wife or that he had to honor his marriage.  No, all he said was that his kids would be heartbroken if he left.  I found that rather funny because apparently he wasn’t as concerned with the fact that his first daughter from his first marriage was only 2 years old and heartbroken when he decided to cheat on her mother and leave them for his current wife.

There were other words exchanged between us–no need to re-write the bullshit for this post except for this,

Jay, “I think that I will always love you, Ivonne. Beyond Space and Time. It cannot “stop”. ‘I don’t believe that True Love ever ends.’ – John Denver.”

What does this love look like?  Well, for one thing when Jay discovered that I became friends with his first wife, Mayr he blocked me on Facebook, blocked me on Skype and continues to block and delete me on Facebook pages that he is the admin on.  In his twisted mind I guess by deleting my fb comments I guess he is somehow deleting me and our relationship as if it never existed.

Well, my blog is my voice and it is my record in the cyber space that I am here, that we were in a relationship, and that I am telling the truth.  I only  have about 3-4 more Jay Scott Berry posts and then I am done.  I can not continue to do this to my spirit.  It wears me out and tears me up to re-live this past and put the words to the page.

To my lovely blog friends that have been giving me support throughout this story I heartfully thank you. You have given me a voice and have validated my pain.

Lisa if you are reading this everything here is the truth–feel free to contact me and I will answer any questions that you have.  I am so sorry that the man you married is not a man of integrity.  But then again that is something you should already know given the fact that when Jay was still married to Mayr and their daughter was only two you yourself were his mistress and he cheated on Mayr with you.

If you are a woman and Jay’s next target I extend the same offer to you as well.

I have nothing to hide.   I live in my truth, even if it means that I had to confess to having an affair with a married man.  Jay often referred to our relationship as a “secret garden” and that never quite sat right with me.  I am no secret.  I am not a mistress.  I will not live in the shadow of someone’s wife.

Like the Phoenix I will rise up out of the ashes of this affair with my soul cleansed and my heart renewed………

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