Broken hearts………

No one, not one being has the capacity to break your heart.

We get ouches along the way but no one really can break your heart.

It is a choice that we make.  We can choose to believe that someone “hurt” us, that this other person  is the cause of our bad feelings.

That is a choice no doubt about it and some people might say it could even be justified.

Or you can make the choice to know that the heart can not dictate who it loves or does not love.  And if someone chose somebody else over you they were merely following the dictates of their heart in that given space-time.

The heart can only be broken if you have lost the capacity to love another being…..as long as you have the ability to love, as a verb, then your heart was never broken….maybe a little bruised but with time bruises do fade…..

Taking small steps on the journey…

 

So, I decide to take this intentional journey to attract my soul mate.  To be conscious of my relationships, my thoughts and my feelings to keep me focused on my path.

But where do I start?  What are my resources?  One of the things I realized is that my friends are my resources.  They are my resources for play, for spirit, for camaraderie, for conversation, for challenges to my intellect.  But I am such a workaholic that I don’t make time for my friends.

How could I possibly draw a soul mate relationship into my life if I don’t even make time for the friends that I do have?

But that is not the only dilemma I have regarding my friends.  You see, most of my friends are the people who I work with, who are also friends of my ex-husband. I realized this when I was at his wedding.

In order for me to move on and move forward not only did I have to make time for my friends but I had to make new friends as well.

When there is a divorce it is good to be on friendly terms, especially if you are in the same line of work and are friends with a lot of the same people.

But it is not really emotionally healthy. At least, not for me.

A friend of mine invited me to karaoke at a bar and I went in the attempt to expand my circle of friends and I even sang–of course I did apologize to all those at the bar–singing is not my thing.  Well, I love to sing in the privacy of my home and it really should be kept that way.

Realization number two- do I really want to meet someone who hangs out at bars and drinks?–not my thing either.

So, here’s the thing.  You have to have a full life in order to bring in your desired other.

My other can not be the sole source of my fun-my laughter-my downtime-or any thing else.

Life does not wait for the perfect moment or the perfect person to begin but when you consciously begin to have your life I believe the perfect person for you will show up.

So tomorrow, I am off to LACMA with two of my guy friends, my hang out buddies and we get to meet one of the guy’s new girl friend–the first one of our little group to have a significant other.

And I get to see some great art—and who knows what else or who else might transpire on a day amongst art, beauty and friends.

 Love Note:

My beloved let me paint a picture of my love for you,

And in that work you will see

the stars, the universe,

my soul laid bare,

and my heart embracing your soul….