In order to manifest anything in your life you need to put action to words.  You cannot just dream about it or sit around wishing or even just visualizing it.  Those are all tools which need to be fueled by actions.

So I gathered two of my girlfriends, Jackie and Lily (not their real names) to participate with me in a goddess/soul mate workshop.  They are my guinea pigs and they know it.

We are on this fun crazy journey that I am making up as I go along, kind of with a little help from everything and nothing in my life.

Day One

Most of us have obstacles or blocks that keep us from our desires.  Some are conscious and some are subconscious.  The three of us have stated that we want to draw/attract our soul mates to us so the first order of business is to see what our blindfolds are.

What is preventing me from having the love that I want?  So we had to think about this and make a list of our limiting beliefs.

My list went something like this:

-I am too old- (young man I took to my ex-husband’s wedding said this to me, apparently I wasn’t too old to have sex with, just too old to be in a “real” relationship with)

-My eggs are too old- (this from my doctor’s)

-I have no sense of humor( the ex-husband has said this to me–yet he forgets that I was married to him for 5 years).

-I am too fat- (mummy dearest likes to tell me this at least 2x a week)

-I am too smart- ( well I do have a brain and I do use it and I don’t dumb down for guys)

My god !!!!! I guess I am destined to be alone forever aren’t I?

Age is a matter of perspective and point of view and the truth is I am ageless.

Someday, I will be a great mom, not matter what the fertility docs say…but that may be another blog…..

I have a great sense of humor that my ex-husband will never see because we just don’t fit.

I’m not really fat but mom seems to remember my size 4 body and now I am a size 8—-I finally got that sexy curvy body I have always wanted. I would say that I am voluptuous.

So we looked at where these ideas came from and realized it was someone else’s voice rattling around in our heads.

When you have a dream or a desire and then hear a negative voice coming up with reasons as to why you can’t have it or why you can’t do it or why it will not turn out, you can be guarenteed that it is not your voice you are hearing .  It is often times a parent, an ex or some negative other.

The only voice you should be listeing to is the one that is emanating from your heart and soul, because that is where your true voice resides.  It is not inside your head.

And your soul mate will love you exactly as you are.

And so now it was time to go to the beach and offer up these limiting beliefs to the goddess Yemaya so that we can be healed and transformed.

So late into the evening, we packed into my Rav-4, my two girlfriends, my dog ( for security) and myself and headed off to the beach.

We took an offering to Yemaya, who is the Yoruba goddess of love and fertiltiy. She is also one of my spirit guides.  She is often depicted as a mermaid, so any offerings to her must be done at the ocean.   Offerings to Yemaya include melon, seven shiny pennies, sea lavender, and blue and white candles.

We arrive at the beach, which was quite warm for the middle of the night.  We found a lovely spot and lighted our candles.  We each had two candles, one blue and one white (Yemaya’s colors), which represented our self and our soul mate.

We took the papers on which we had written our limiting beliefs and burned them with our candles, giving them up to the universe to be transmuted and healed from our consciousness.

We then placed our offering to Yemaya at the waters edge, it it was taken by the tide it meant that she had accepted our offering and would assist us in the search for our soul mates.

It appeared as if our offering had been accepted but then 2 of the 3 pieces of melon washed back up. Hmnn…maybe this was not a good sign?  We were determined to get those melons into the ocean.  We had to place them on the sand as close to water without being in the water and then not getting caught by the tide.  We all took turns trying to get those melons into the ocean.  What a sight we must of have been –3 women and a dog hurling melons into the ocean.  We accomplished our goal-the ocean took our melons and we knew Yemaya would help us.

You must also bring libations of spirts to offer up to the gods and we had Barcardi Gold with us.  We poured out libations to the goddess.  Then Jackie decided we should each take a swig of rum to seal the deal. I’m not really mush of a drinker but hey I want my soul mate in my life.

So there we were, 3 goddesses, basking in the moonlight, drinking rum while we opened our hearts to our soul mate………

love note……

Blessings my dear Pirate.

I will visit you in your dreams.

I will be the mermaid,

daughter of Yemaya

that rescues your dying soul.

I will drag your limp body

to the sandy shores

of a beautiful isle

and into your lips

I will breathe life back into you.


Sweet, salty kisses

as I gaze upon that boyish face.


I will trade in my mermaid’s tail

for a pair of womanly legs

that I will wrap around your

sinewy torso.


Let my womb explode

in the power of your soul

as we reunite in yet another lifetime,

to fuel one another,

to power one another.

and to mirror one another…..


softly and sweetly I bid you good night my dear pirate

for tomorrow is another day,

another lifetime, another adventure.


And I must reclaim my mermaid’s tail

and swim into the stars…….

10 Responses to “Yemaya”

  1. Christina Says:

    Hey girl! I love this! and I love that you are writing! : ) Big hugs to you-

  2. Lisa Says:

    How Incredibly Imaginative and Wildly Romantic!!!
    Your Soulmates should appear in no time!!

  3. pajuil43 Says:

    While in front of the mighty ocean that night,did you ever heard a tic- tak did you ever see the hands moving on the clock of life and if they were moving was it clockwise or they just were standing still or just waiting for someone to give UN EMPUJON.

  4. pajuil43 Says:

    finding your soul-mate like everything in life it has a price, but unfortunately the price on a soul-mate it has no monetary value not in millions or billions but the price tag is in your soul. and if its in your soul only you can pay that price. so how much are you willin to pay.

  5. radaronelson Says:

    I would say you are smart, funny, and hot with a perfect body and you will find that guy that fits and sees all of those things.

  6. R is for Reflections…… « Sex, Spirit, Soul Mates and Chocolate….Ivonne's Journey Says:

    […] did goddess ritual to Yemaya, the mother goddess of fertility and love (see post ), I did vision boards, I meditated–you name it I did it. And nada, zip, zilch, […]

  7. Accecptance or Resignation…….. | Sex, Spirit, Soul Mates and Chocolate....Ivonne's Journey Says:

    […] Yemaya and Crone Mother are knocking at my door waiting to be let in.  But how can I allow the crone to enter when mother I have not been?  A maiden I have been. And maidens become mothers which ultimately transform the feminine into divine wisdom. I do not know if I am ready.  I hear them but chose to ignore them in my silence. […]

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