Martha Stout author of, The Sociopath Next Door, states that, “about one in twenty five individuals are sociopathic, meaning, essentially, that they do not have a conscious.” Most people associate the word sociopath with criminals and serial killers. While all serial killers are sociopaths not all sociopaths are serial killers.
Sociopaths live right under our noses. They are pastors, ceo’s, politicians etcetera. When a person has been intimately involved with a sociopath there is a phase in the healing process in which everywhere you turn you are seeing a sociopath. After that phase passes it is like having a radar for sociopaths. It could be a look, a diva-like behavior, the written word or the spoken word that will trigger that radar. Being a person of conscience we often justify or explain away these red flags in an attempt to make logical the illogical.
The Symptoms of this disorder, as defined by the DSM-IV-TR can be found on this blog post, https://ivonnemontijo.wordpress.com/2013/01/20/the-face-of-narcissism/ .
What does occur is that our radar does become honed. Those past experiences serve as shining lights spotlighting the sociopath/narcissist that is currently in front of us.
One such person is Mike Adams, the self-proclaimed, health ranger, activist-turned-scientist and owner of Natural News website. I receive weekly e-mails with links to the website. I decided to explore the web-site beyond the normal links to articles. I went to his biography page, http://www.healthranger.com/Health-Ranger-Biography.html and that is when the alarms, sirens and red lights started going off in my brain.
The verbage he used was so strikingly similar to the ex-sociopath that I was involved with (refer to the face of narcissism link above).
Does anyone really need to know what he scored on his college entrance exams and then that he chose not to go to MIT?
“In college entrance exams and graduate school entrance exams, Adams scored in the 99.9th percentile across all U.S. students. He aced the English, Mathematics and Science sections of college entrance exams, scoring 100% on 3 out of 4 sections earning numerous offers of scholarships from various universities, including the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (which he chose not to attend)”. 
Below are some more of the red flags.
Adams chose not to attend graduate school but was offered numerous scholarships to do so. Instead, he decided to launch his own software company in 1993. That software company went on to become a multi-million-dollar entity that provided email technology solutions to many Fortune 500 firms and specialized in email alert technologies for universities and government offices.
Adams sold the software company in 2003 and launched Natural News (then NewsTarget.com). Natural News went on to become the internet’s most trafficked natural health news website, reaching millions of unique readers each month.
Mike Adams lived in Taiwan for two years and is nearly fluent in spoken Mandarin. Adams was also a resident of Ecuador for two years, from 2008 – 2010, where he built a 20-acre food forest containing over a hundred food-producing trees. He speaks conversational Spanish.
Adams has no criminal record and has never been arrested. How much do you want to bet that most likely he has a criminal record?
That whole biography page was just screaming out at me—sociopath –sociopath. I did not want to be under the influence of the, ” I see dead people” syndrome so I referred to a trusted friend and colleague Paula of http://paularenee.wordpress.com/ and sent her the links and asked her opinion as I consider her an expert in sociopaths.
Her response to me were the following links:
One of the sociopathic traits of someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the smear campaign. The attempt to make someone else look bad by misdirecting the light of truth towards somebody else and away from the sociopath.
And here in lies the irony because Mike Adams, health ranger/guru (sociopath) has two articles on his website:
“Warning Consumers About Fake Gurus and Sociopaths
So I went ahead and googled “sociopath” and lo and behold Mike Adams article did not appear in the top five search results of google.
What better way to deflect that you are a sociopath than by posting an article on sociopaths. The sociopath checklist that he posts should be read side by side with his biography page.
I am sure you are asking yourself, why is Ivonne writing about this?
Well I am going to tell you why. I am on many missions and one of those missions is to expose the faces of narcissists and sociopaths.
I have a Facebook page dedicated to this project, https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Faces-of-Narcissism-and-Sociopaths/1520998668119419?ref=bookmarks
There are too many of them on the planet and they make life a living hell for those around them. They are a plague to society and need to be exposed.
I am concluding that Mike Adams is one of these such sociopaths. I have unsubscribed from his newsletter as I do not want to support sociopaths.
 Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door page 9
The past couple of months I have been experiencing flashbacks. No not hot flashes, but flashbacks defined by Merriam Webster as :
1-a recession of flame to an unwanted position (as into a blowpipe)
2 a : interruption of chronological sequence (as in a film or literary work) by interjection of events of earlier occurrence; also : an instance of flashback
b : a past incident recurring vividly in the mind
So what have I been having flashbacks on? The answer is incidents/events that occurred while I was having a relationship with the sociopath. I could be going through my facebook feed and read something random about NPD which will trigger a thought, or I could be checking site stats here on WordPress and see that some of “those posts” had been read by someone or I check the word searches that have led people to my blog and I see his name + sociopath and I start to wonder why is someone looking up his name + sociopath. Is it a new target? Will She contact me? Or I could be driving and a random thought just enters the brain. Or does it? Is this random or is there some underlying reason I am thinking about these things now? When I first wrote that story I was nowhere near understanding or healing. The first few posts were just about getting the information and the feelings out there into cyber space. It was writing born out of confusion and hurt. I read those posts and it is as if they happened to someone else. And they did. I am no longer the woman in those stories. As I read those posts or flash on event I am seeing it through a different lens, a different perspective. This time around I know about the sociopathic pathology. I can clearly see where and how I was manipulated by this person. And there is no anger, and there is no hurt. There is only knowledge and understanding of what happened. And it bores me. My own story bores me. Who this man is bores me. He is nothing more than a fictional character created out of the dark recesses of his distorted brain. His whole life and successes nothing more than the fictions of a sociopath created to appease narcissistic delusions.
When you have intimately known a narcissistic sociopath and you research and learn to aid the healing process you reach a point where you able to recognize the sociopaths around you. It does not mean you don’t get fooled or used by these people. It means that you are able to recognize the red flags and manipulations. As it turns out 4 months ago I wound up training a new female performer who it turns out it is a sociopath. Female narcs are slightly different from male narcs but I won’t go into that here as I stated previously the narcs around me bore me. I will just say that we are no longer working together and she refused to return $300.00 worth of equipment for no good reason. As if a narc needs a good reason to do anything. But it’s like getting sucker punched and you are like, “shit it happened again.” And they knock the wind out of you. And you have to decide how much do you want to continue to engage with this person? What’s worth more, the $300.00 or my sanity and energy? I have chosen the latter as I have far more positive projects to work on.
I started this blog on Feb. 10 2010 with the intention to “share with the world my journey on the path to my soul mate.”
It’s been almost three years and I would love to be writing, “I found HIM!!!!!!” But alas that is not the case.
But what I can say is that, “I have found me.” And maybe at the moment that might be a better thing. In actuality it’s more of a better understanding of who I am and the choices that I have made in my relationships and how so many puzzle pieces over the years have interconnected.
And finally out of desperation I prayed. I asked mother/father god to please show me what was the obstacle preventing true love from coming my way?
And I had an aha moment …………..
How does one go from being an innocent child like this……
to someone with Narcissistic Personality disorder like this?
To continue reading go to, The Illusionist by Ivonne Montijo on amazon.com
When my magician friend Johnny Tong, had found out that I had been involved with the illusionist, he had plenty to say on the subject. With his permission these are his words regarding
the Great and Amazing boy wonder magician.
I know him, he is everything I hate about magicians. The craft of magic opens you up to the thoughts of people, it is definitely a power. And like the great Stan Lee has said with great power comes great responsibility . Many magicians are dirty sad pathetic lonely men who use their talent to molest and twist with the hearts of many. Sociopaths often love magic, and practice……………….
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