The Coffee Press…

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I have been using a coffee press since March 2012.  It started when I was traveling to Malaysia and my traveling companion, the narcissist, see post, The Face of Narcissm, asked me to bring along with me a coffee press.  It seems that the Malaysians are not the biggest fans of coffee or rather the hotel rooms do not have coffee makers in them.  It seems tea is more their bag (yes, pun intended).

So I go to Target and rather than buying 1 large coffee press I buy 2 smaller ones because there would come a point during our stay where I was going to be moved out of the hotel room so another guest (the wife) could take my place.  Gladly, none of that transpired but if you haven’t read the story or happen to be living in a cave for the past year here is the  link for you, Scandal in Malaysia.

So I come back home with two small coffee presses.  Wanting to cut back on the usage of electricity and counter space–I give up my coffee maker and continue using the press.  At some point the glass cracked but I still had another one so not a problem at all.

Well, the other day a funny thing happened the second one fell over and glass cracked not in one place but in many places-it was quite an interesting design.  And there I was with no other coffee press and no electric coffee maker.  Now really the title of my Blog should be Sex, Spirit, SoulMates, Chocolate and Coffee,–hmnn maybe I ought to change the title, as I really do need to start the day with a cup of java even if it is decaf.  Well I poured the hot water into a glass stirred up the coffee grounds and somehow managed with a coffee filter to filter the coffee into a cup.

Now here is what I find interesting.  It was the last coffee press that HE had used, and touched. It has his dna on it.  It had his energy imprint-was the universe speaking to me?  Was I somehow getting a coded message about the ties that bind?  Food for thought isn’t it.

So I go off to Target to purchase another coffee press—Macgivering it is ok for one morning but I wanted to be assured there would be no glitches thereafter in the morning production of my black brew.  Do I buy yet another small one? Or do I purchase the bigger coffee press?  I didn’t really need the big one.  The small made enough coffee for one cup ( a rather large cup actually) of coffee for me. Hmnn, but what did that say about my personal relationships if I can only make one cup of coffee in the morning.  So I looked and I stared. I opened the boxes trying to decide which size to get.  Small enough for just me or larger for the possibility of another?

A Target employee asked me if I needed help? Lordy had I been staring at the presses for that long?  What to do, what to do?

I finally decided that I would get the larger coffee press.  The one that would make enough coffee for you and me.  And there on the kitchen counter sits the new coffee press free of ill energy waiting and hopeful for the day when it will pour out its magical elixir for me and the new mister.


JSB Disclaimer

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” —Anne Lamott

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Jay Scott Berry Post Disclaimer

While I was in a relationship with Jay Scott Berry he had often said to me that he wanted me to be the one to write his life story.

Everything you will read in the Jay Scott Berry posts are the absolute truth.  These posts were written to share my story and relationship with JSB as they are a part of my story and of my journey.  So in that sense yes I am writing a bit of JSB’s life story, the part of his life that has coincided with mine.

And yet, it has come to my attention that there are people out in the world who think/feel that my posts regarding JSB are an attempt to “destroy” him.  Let it be known that I am not trying to destroy JSB.  I am sharing my story and my relationship with JSB. It is an ugly story but none the less it is the truth.

The uglier truth is the compilation of all the stories of the different women that JSB has lied to, cheated on and abused both emotionally and physically. In the world of NPD, we call that “soul rape.”   I did not make JSB a Narcissistic Sociopath–I merely discovered the truth behind the illusion based on my experience with him, the experience of his first wife “Marina” and the patterns he continues to have with his current wife.

The purpose of these posts were to share my story and to have the truth out there so that any other “targets” might have the opportunity to discover the truth for themselves and not merely have the propaganda that JSB puts out.  The same propaganda that led me to believe that he was successful in magic, music and that he was a highly evolved spiritual being.  He is a fraud on all levels.  But don’t just take my word for it.  No, do your own research on the man.

As it turns out in that respect my blog posts have been a success. On April 21 2013 I noticed in my blog stats that the search term “jay scott berry sociopath” brought a viewer to my pages.  How odd, I thought that someone would be searching using the terms JSB and sociopath

An individual did an extensive search on my site for my story and “Marina’s”.  Needless to say JSB had targeted another woman.  Yes, there was yet another relationship/extra-marital affair with a young woman while he was still married to Lisa Richards in 2013.

So, if you are the next target reading this–please know that everything written here is the absolute truth, regardless of what JSB may have said to you about me or “Marina”.  Yes, he told me a lot of things about Marina which I discovered to be false.  His daughter with Marina is a teenager and he has pretty much emotionally and financially abandoned her.  As of this writing he is still married to Lisa and they apparently have some kind of arrangement.  When I hear of a divorce I will certainly update this post.Update the second wife left him and 2016 was the year of the divorce.

If, you are someone planning to do business with him be aware that he runs out on his debts, unless of course he thinks it might affect his standing in the magic world.

I am still owed $3000.00 for the expenditures for the trip to Malaysia which JSB assured me I would get reimbursed.

He still owes money to the Independent Music Network.

The money used to make partial payments to the Magicians in the Malaysia scandal was the money from the airline ticket refunds which should have gone back to the producer, theoretically stolen money–but hey the magicians got paid.  I guess they don’t care if JSB stole the money or not as long as they got paid?!!!

On Sept 8 2013 he started a smear campaign against me and his ex-wife Mayr.  He claimed that we were slandering him and that he only extended out love and forgiveness towards us. Really?  Below is the e-mail he sent me on Sept 9 2013.  Does it sound like love and forgiveness? I think not but judge for yourself.


Please be advised that you are currently under investigation by the State of California for Libel, Defamation of Character, Slander and attempted Extortion.

This is all you own doing. What on earth has possessed you is beyond my understanding. It is only my patience, love and compassion that are holding back the tide.

All it will take is one word from me to my lawyer and the next knock on your door will be the police.

Your future is now hanging by a thread. Please, please come to your senses.

I haven’t done anything to you, except end a brief affair that you and I never should have started. It lasted only a few weeks and that was more than a year and a half ago!

Have you forgotten how it was YOU who came to my hotel room, offered yourself to me, and then screamed like a bitch in heat for me to run out and get condoms? Ivonne’s note–I was already in his hotel room as this was the week in Feb 2012 that he was in town for meetings regarding his music career and insisted that we go to his room in between meetings. It was also the day he gave me the wolf card.

Have you forgotten how you got so drunk on our date that I had to practically carry you back to the hotel and then you threw up on me?  A note from Mayr, she is the one that threw up on him not me. That’s right, there’s nothing quite so romantic as vomit.

Have you forgotten how you tried to sexually assault me when I came to your house to pick up my things AFTER I ended our physical relationship?  If the gender roles were reversed, you know full well that I could have had you arrested then and there.  Ivonne’s note, I did not sexaully assalt him what I said to him was, ” Would it be bad of me to say that I want to rip your clothes off and fuck your brains out?”

It’s amazing how these, and so many other FACTS, haven’t made it into your outrageous, fictional story. I guess the TRUTH was the first casualty of your one-sided war upon me.

And all the while, I haven’t responded in kind. I’ve just forgiven you. While you’ve been running a deliberate smear campaign, I’ve turned the other cheek.

And still it‘s apparent that, after a year and a half, you are unable to just take responsibility for your own choices and your own actions.

So here’s the Immediate Situation:

You will cease your unwarranted attacks on me and pull down your BS webpage, immediately. Otherwise, you better get yourself a very good lawyer.

Because my lawyer is chomping at the bit to eat you for lunch. I’m holding the leash. He didn’t even want me to warn you.

Do you really want this to escalate? Are your really ready to spend time in jail???

I offer you Peace, Love, Forgiveness and Compassion. This is my Olive Branch. I hold no grudge. I Am Love.

Please consider this carefully.



On Feb 9 2014 JSB posted to his FB Wall

“It is my experience that, whenever there’s a separation between friends or lovers, there is often one who has the
personal integrity to simply get on with their life without the need to blame or  defame the other. Then, sadly, there is often one who somehow imagines that they  can build themselves up by putting the other down. By observing how one acts after a relationship has ended, you can often surmise how they acted during the relationship. True colors always shine through.” – JSB

I do not know who he is writing about but he is already setting up the next truth teller to be shot down as a liar or bitter woman.

“Another very valuable red flag to recognize when trying to spot a sociopath is to see how they deal with attacks on their own integrity. If a sociopath is presented with a collection of facts,
documents and evidence showing that he lied or deceived, he will refuse to address the evidence and, instead, attack the messenger!

If you really try to nail a sociopath down to answering a documented allegation, they will quickly turn on you, denounce you, and declare that you too are secretly plotting against them. Anyone who does not fall for the brainwashing of the sociopath is sooner or later kicked out of the circle and then wildly disparaged by the remaining members of the cult group.”

Learn more:

As of Feb 2017 he is one year behind in child support to his oldest daughter from his first marriage.  But in the meantime although child support has been neglected back in Dec 2013 Jay and his wife Lisa did purchase a second horse.

I’m guessing that Lisa gets a horse every time she finds out about a new mistress………

Also to note he loves to talk about his 100 acre property–bought with the financial assistance of his second wife’s parents.

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He tells people that I am a psycho–hmnn psychic maybe but psycho?  He tells people that I am mad at him because he would not marry me.  Hmnn, you can’t marry a man who is already married to somebody else.  Yes, Jay tries to discredit me as is the nature of a narcissistic sociopath.  Read not only the JSB posts but the other posts as well and decide for yourself.

Please feel free to contact me at  if you have any questions or doubts.



Christmas Caribbean Cruise 2012 part 3




The plane landed at Louis Armstrong International airport somewhere around 9:00 am and boy was I so happy to be getting off of that plane.  Granted I was being a baby it was only like a five hour flight and compared to 24 hours flying into Malaysia or Europe really a piece of cake.

All of my pink luggage and my guitar had arrived safely I grabbed one of those luggage cart thingeys and headed straight for the taxi line. Hotel check in was technically at 3:00 pm in the afternoon but I had booked my reservation to start the previous night so I could just arrive in the morning and check in without a problem.  For the one night I was staying at the O’Keeffe Plaza Hotel. in downtown New Orleans.


When I arrive the front lobby is being remodeled.  There is no furniture and tiles on the floor are being torn up and replaced.  There are about three work guys making a lot of ruckus and noise.  There were no bellman, not sure why but I guess for only paying $115.00 for two nights I guess it was self-serve time.  I got a rickety bell cart upon which to put all my luggage and the guitar and the laptop computer and made my way to the room which was simple and looked clean.

I set-up the laptop checked emails and called my mom to let her know that I had made it to the hotel.  Then it was time for a short nap before I started exploring New Orleans.

After the nap the first thing on my priority list was to find an inexpensive bag of some sort that I could use for a carry on for the return flight home.  I scored!! I found a very large black duffel bag on sale for $12.99 in some souvenir shop on Canal St.  I was a happy camper.


I started exploring Canal st which goes all the way down to waterfront.


I almost did a dinner cruise on this riverboat but after spending a week on a boat opted not to.

I found myself at the Water Front Market Place in New Orleans.  Here are some of the pictures that I took on that day.  Enjoy!!!!




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Scandal in Malaysia……Part Eight

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And while this hotel room was much bigger and really seemed like a small apt it was still not really big enough for three people.

I found myself caught in between Lisa’s desires and and the magician’ss wants.  Lisa wanting to play tourist since we did not have a show to do and the magician focused on appeasing the Iranian producer and trying to get payment for the artists….

To continue reading go to The Illusionists by Ivonne Montijo on

World wide links are here.


Happy New Year!!!!



First of all I hope you all had a Merry Christmas.  I was on a cruise face painting over the holiday but no decent cheap internet access–hence why it seemed like I may have disappeared off of the face of the earth.

I have internet but not my regular computer–so I will resume regular blogging in a few days.

Second- I have been nominated for a couple of awards by and radaronelson .   Thank you, yes I accept them and will do my duties as soon as I get back on track.

Third- I wanted to have completed the Jay Scott Berry Saga by the end of 2012 but no internet for the past 8 days changed that.

What follows in the series is the rest of Back in Los Angeles, Scandal in Malaysia, and What Happens Next?, and NPD.

Then I will blog about my cruise and who I met on the cruise and my time in the Caribbean and in New Orleans.

Until then I am wishing you all a very Happy New Year!!!!!

May 2013 brings us all closer to our dreams and our passions!!!!

I love you all!!!!!!




Ode to Lisa

Yesterday, one of God‘s angels, Lisa Haze was called back to  heaven.

She was a dear and beloved friend who lost her battle with cancer.  The funny thing about Lisa is that she never let on how seriously ill she was.  I got a clue last March when we were in Malaysia together  and she gave me pages of notes on her medications and doctors.

But being sick didn’t stop her from dreaming or planning for the future.

Lisa is one of those rare-good people who you are blessed to meet  in your life.  She called her company, “Happiness Unlimited” because she just wanted everybody to be happy.  I don’t think I ever heard her raise her voice or be angry at anyone.

She was a gentle soul.

And one classy lady.

We would go to the “theatre” dressed to the nines.

Lisa was the definition of classy.

She had that golden-era Hollywood glamour of days gone by.

Her birthday was Nov 23 mine on Dec 1.  We are both Sagittarius and we would go to Disneyland to celebrate our birthday’s  together.

She was a dear friend, a confident and my cohort.  She was the one with me and my friend Jeannette on the beach at midnight making offerings to Yemaya, Yoruba Goddess of love and fertility in exchange for meeting our soul mates.

She had the voice of an angel.

In her younger days she had a recording contract with Sony.  She was in three bands, The California Girls, The Skallywagz, and Lisa Haze & The Dr. Bones Band.  She traveled the world performing and singing.

We had plans to do music together.  I was going to  write the songs and she was going to sing them.   Today she is singing with the angels and traveling through infinity.  Lisa I was honored to know you and call you my friend.

I miss you already………..


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